As we learn more about dealing with memories, let’s keep in mind that our purpose is not to stop remembering. But we want to stop running from the hard memories; we want to stop filling our minds with all kinds of stuff just to shut the pain out.

Over time, we can learn to address strong feelings on our schedules. We can decide to look very briefly at the trauma and pain attached to a particular memory, and then put that memory in an imaginary box and close the lid. We control it and it does not have to control us. Be prepared with something else to think about if the memory intrudes when you aren’t ready to address it: Have a plan to think about something pleasant, positive, and affirming. Make a list of your push-back thoughts so you’ll have it ready when you need it.

Please email me if you have questions, concerns, or thoughts (Mary.Brown@SilenceBrokenNow.org). I’m a survivor too. We’re here to help.

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